” Beware the barrenness of a busy life”
“I’m sorry, I am just so busy.” Who here can raise your hand if you have heard this or said this before. I would imagine there isn’t a person out there that hasn’t been in these shoes. For years my canned response to most anything had the word busy in it. ” How are you?” ” Busy”, ” Did you finish that presentation?” “No, sorry I’ve just been so busy” ” Mom, want to watch a show together?” ” Sorry, I am busy.”
In an effort to dig myself out of the busy barrel, I created a way to start prioritizing the things that were most important to me. Creating a repeatable process of how I approached each day was the key to avoiding the auto-response of I’m busy. An interesting thing happened next. Once I gained clarity on what it was that I needed to do, the phrase ” I’m busy” began to disappear. I think for me the word busy became a place holder for clutter, chaos, or deflection. Once I gained clarity the chaos melted away.
To paint a complete picture, I want to go on the record by saying that yes, I still use the word busy. However, busy feels like another bad four-letter word to me. Busy reminds me of days where I felt manic, reactive, and without direction. Here are some of my favorite replacement phrases.
” How are you” ” I am doing well, full, but happy”
” Did you finish that presentation?” ” No, that wasn’t the priority today”
” Mom, want to watch a show together?” ” I am not available at the moment, how about in 30 minutes”
So this is what I recommend. Start noticing how often you use the word busy. See if it is really and truly what you are wanting to say. Maybe it is, or maybe it’s just a triggered response. Once you become aware maybe try making the switch. See how it feels. I mean of all of the four-letter words out there, I can think of a few others, that are far more satisfying to say then busy.. am I right. – Megan