“Thankfulness is the soil in which joy thrives.”— author unknown
On November 26th, 2015 on a silly little Instagram account I made an accidental decision to find beauty in what had been broken. On this Thanksgiving day as a newly widowed mom of two; I made a decision. I decided that while there was so much heartache and uncertainty stealing our every breath, I was going to look for more. My girls deserved way more. I came across this quote, “Thankfulness is the soil in which joy thrives.” While I wasn’t happy or at peace at that moment, I was thankful to my family, my tribe, and my community that had kept us afloat. Thankfulness would have to be the stepping stone emotion I would use to get us to a place of joy. With a simple picture, a clumsy post, and probably my first hashtag I marked it with my decision #wechoosejoy.
With each action that the girls and I took we began searching and looking for the light, the laughter, the positive, and boom just like that joy would appear. The more committed we became toward making choices and living a life that would hold up this commitment to #wechoosejoy the easier it became. We learned in these moments that we would find whatever it was that we were looking for. When we went looking for joy, it was right there to be found.
These three small words have been critical in reshaping the future for me and my two daughters. Danny Meyers wrote “When something happens to you or your loved ones that completely disrupts all “normal” behaviors, schedules or threatens life; there is an opportunity to have new perspective on just how you spend your time.” A moment when you can decide do we resume or do we re-imagine. I decided to re-imagine and to look at each choice as an opportunity to make as much room for joy as possible. As I re-stacked the stones of our family’s foundation I carefully selected ones that would provide strength and stability not just for today but for tomorrow, regardless of what may come our way. I discovered that for me peace and joy became a bi-product of stability and freedom. These opposing terms became the values in which I have made many of my decisions.
It’s funny as both a mom and an entrepreneur I think it is common to accept the crazy and accept the busy. However, over the last few years, I have really learned that we only have a set number of hours each day, and how we choose to spend them really matters. We don’t have to do things the way they have been done, we get to re-imagine; we get to choose!
My intention by creating this blog is to open up about some of the things I have learned over the years in life, business, and family. My hope is to share with you a lense that can only come from experiencing such a great loss. Jayson, my late husband was a doting dad, fun-loving friend, and generous individual. He was a constant reminder of the importance of play and spending time with your tribe. I have intentionally made room for more of this in my life, and you know what… he was right! This life is a gift and I plan on getting the most out of every minute.
Since gratitude or being thankful was the place that allowed us to open, I also want it to be how we close. I am so very thankful for my family, my tribe, and my community that has encouraged me to share what we have learned. But I am most thankful for my beautiful daughters Maryn and Grey who have inspired me to no end. As well as my total gift of a husband Jon, who’s energy, devotion, and laughter fills me from my toes to my nose! – Megan